The Superpower I Never Wanted

Learning to trust myself, live fearlessly, and be my own superhero after a Stage 4 cancer diagnosis

Photo by Miguel Bruna on Unsplash

Realizing I’m not made of steel was… disappointing.

For so long, I thought I could handle anything—that nothing could break me. I wore resilience like armor. I pushed through heartache, trauma, and challenge after challenge, believing I was unshakable.

And then I heard the words:
“Stage 4 cancer.”

Suddenly, all the things that used to scare me—failure, judgment, the unknown—didn’t carry the same weight. Once you’ve stared down your worst fear, everything else feels a little smaller. A little quieter.

I wouldn’t wish this diagnosis on anyone. But there’s a strange freedom that comes with it. A kind of superpower. Because when you’ve survived what you thought would destroy you, you stop being afraid to really live.

I’m not made of steel.
But maybe I’m made of something even stronger.

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The truth is, cancer—especially metastatic cancer—brings more questions than answers.

You're hit with a flood of information, opinions, and advice. You try to take it all in, try to make sense of it. But even after hours of research and appointments, you're left with questions like:

• What should I eat to help my body heal?

• What supplements might make a difference?

• Should I go forward with surgery? Chemo? Radiation?

• Do I listen to the well-meaning friends who send me links to miracle cures?

It’s overwhelming. And it’s not just me—I hear it from so many fellow survivors and warriors. It can feel like you're navigating a maze with no map.

What I’ve learned is this:
There’s no single right way through.
No universal path. No perfect formula.

You have to listen to your own gut. You have to do your own research and make the decisions that feel aligned with your life, your body, your heart.

For me, that means choosing with intention—doing what feels right even if others don’t understand it. Because I never want to live with regret. I want to look back, decades from now, and know I honored myself every step of the way.

This is my life. My story. My truth.
And whatever comes next—I’ll face it with clarity, courage, and yes… a little bit of superpower.

So be your own superhero.
And maybe—even when you're ready—be a superhero for someone else, too.

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